Entering into a surrogacy arrangement is a significant commitment that involves a close partnership between the gestational carrier and the intended parents. At Adonis Fertility International, we understand the importance of establishing a strong foundation built on shared values to ensure a smooth and positive experience for both parties. Here are the crucial values that gestational carriers and intended parents should discuss and agree upon before finalizing a legal surrogacy contract:
1. Honesty
Why It Matters: Honesty is the cornerstone of any surrogacy relationship and is very important to Adonis and all of our employees. Both parties must be honest and transparent about their expectations, intentions, and any potential concerns. This openness fosters a trusting relationship, which is crucial for navigating the complexities of the surrogacy journey.
2. TRUST
Why It Matters: Trust is the bedrock of a successful surrogacy partnership. Without it, the relationship between the gestational carrier and the intended parents can become strained and challenging. Trust allows both parties to feel secure and confident in their roles. For intended parents, trusting the surrogate means having faith in her commitment to carrying their child with care and dedication. For the surrogate, it means trusting that the intended parents will respect her well-being and the significant responsibility she carries. Trust fosters a positive environment where both parties can focus on bringing a healthy baby into the world. Building and maintaining this trust is crucial throughout the entire surrogacy process—from the initial match to post-birth, ensuring that both the surrogate and the intended parents feel supported and respected at every stage.
3. Clear Communication
Why It Matters: Effective communication is vital throughout the surrogacy process. Both parties should agree on the frequency and mode of communication, such as regular updates via email, phone calls, or in-person meetings. Clear communication helps prevent misunderstandings and ensures everyone is on the same page.
4. Mutual Respect
Why It Matters: Respect for each other’s roles, feelings, and boundaries is essential. Intended parents should respect the gestational carrier’s autonomy and significant role, while the carrier should respect the intended parents’ hopes and dreams for their child.
5. Shared Goals and Expectations
Why It Matters: Both parties need to align their goals and expectations regarding surrogacy. This includes expectations about medical procedures, prenatal care, and the birth plan. The surrogate and the parents must agree on controversial items, such as embryo reduction, termination of the pregnancy, acceptable reasons for termination, etc. Discussing and agreeing on these details upfront helps avoid conflicts later on.
6. Legal and Ethical Compliance
Why It Matters: It is crucial for both parties to adhere to legal and ethical standards. This includes understanding and agreeing to the terms of the surrogacy contract, which experienced legal professionals should prepare. The contract should cover all aspects of the surrogacy arrangement, including financial compensation, parental rights, and responsibilities.
7. Emotional Preparedness
Why It Matters: Both the gestational carrier and the intended parents must be emotionally prepared for the journey ahead. This includes understanding the emotional highs and lows that may come with the surrogacy process and being ready to support each other through them.
8. Commitment to Health and Well-being
Why It Matters: A shared commitment to the health and well-being of the gestational carrier and the baby is paramount. This includes agreeing on prenatal care, lifestyle choices during pregnancy, and medical interventions if necessary. Both parties should prioritize the carrier’s physical and mental health throughout the pregnancy.
9. Flexibility and Adaptability
Why It Matters: Surrogacy can be unpredictable, and both parties must be flexible and adaptable to changes or unexpected situations. A willingness to adjust plans and support each other through unforeseen circumstances is crucial for a positive outcome.
10. Support Systems
Why It Matters: Both the gestational carrier and the intended parents should have strong support systems. This includes emotional, psychological, and practical support from family, friends, and professionals. Agreeing on how each party will be supported can help manage stress and maintain a positive experience.
11. Post-Birth Relationship
Why It Matters: Discussing and agreeing on the nature of the relationship after birth is important. Some carriers and intended parents may wish to maintain contact, while others prefer to part ways. Clarifying these expectations in advance helps ensure a smooth transition post-birth.
By agreeing on these values, both gestational carriers and intended parents can create a strong foundation for their surrogacy journey. This mutual understanding and respect will help navigate the complexities of surrogacy, ensuring a positive and fulfilling experience for everyone involved. At Adonis Fertility International, we are committed to supporting you every step of the way.
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